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How to Spice Up Your Sex Life the BDSM Way
If you find yourself getting bored with plain old sex and you’re looking for ways to spice up your sex life, using sex toys is usually the way to go. Our suggestion? Take it up one notch further and explore the scintillating world of BDSM toys through a handy, pleasurable sex toy called a sex whip.
A sex whip - used interchangeably with bondage whip or flogger - is a sex toy used in a BDSM category called impact play, where the name of the game is to elicit erotic pleasure using impact such as slapping, spanking, whipping, flogging or caning.
A sex whip is a long, flexible and thin instrument usually made from a single strand of leather or rope while a flogger BDSM toy resembles a sex toy whip but has multiple strips or tails. The main difference between these two are the extra strands or tails the flogger has.
As for which is better, it usually depends on one’s preference for pain. A bondage whip has a bit of a painful and heavier effect as it would bring a sore sting when swung while a flogger gives off a more “thuddy” - and thus softer - result when swung in the same manner.
Most people generally get excited with the idea of dominating or being dominated by their partner when it comes to sexual plays, and often these people get incredibly turned on with mixing pleasure with pain! You’d even be surprised at how many enjoy getting off when their pain thresholds are at the tipping point! Spanking, whipping or flogging in close proximity to the genital areas reportedly helps get the blood flowing, leading to more intense orgasms!
Using a sex whip or bondage whip does hurt, but then again, that’s the main point of using these instruments! A sex whip toy or a flogger BDSM toy is designed to be used on areas of the body protected by muscles or fats, but it’s quite normal to get bruises or even welts after a BDSM play. The pain level may also depend on the type of toy used, for instance, a rabbit fur flogger BDSM toy doesn’t hurt at all while a single whip can bring a host of biting pain to the recipient.
As always, when it comes to sex and BDSM, there are rules that you and your partner must establish before beginning. Talk about your pain tolerance, your safe words, and how the events will go through so you can both manage your expectations.
It’s important to remember not to start whipping your partner enthusiastically once you begin - that’s guaranteed to kill the mood instantly! As with all good things, the trick is to warm up first to prepare the body, kind of like warming up your muscles by stretching first before you get to exercising.
There are different ways to use a sex whip and these are in stages. Start off by lightly tickling your partner with the tip of the whip in their erogenous areas and let them experience feathery soft sensations. Next you can lightly stroke the bondage whip all over their body, down their spine and onto their butt cheeks - this is guaranteed to turn them on and will make them anticipate the next step, the actual whipping, or as others call it, spanking.
Start by lightly whipping to get your partner used to the sensation, letting them adjust to the pain so you can better gauge your next step. Do remember to deliver spanks only on the fleshiest parts of the body like the ass to avoid painful injuries! And always keep in mind to immediately stop once you hear the safe word.
Tip: Stimulate the spanked areas with your hands to make the pleasure more intense.
There are many variations on how to use a flogger BDSM toy but it’s generally a “free play” impact instrument, just as long as you don’t strike areas that are vulnerable and sensitive. Avoid areas such as the face, spine, shoulders, neck and genitals as they can cause serious injury. Some generally safe areas to flog are the back, buttocks, arms, legs while many enjoy having their thighs and breasts stroked by a flogger.
As with the bondage whip, you can use the flogger to stroke and tickle areas your partner will love, dragging the tails on their skin for delicious sensations. Create build up and anticipation with your stroking and tickling while choosing your next area to deliver the spank. In between spanks, stroke and caress your partner’s skin to soothe them. As you advance in flogging, you’ll start to develop your own rhythm to this kinky play.
One of the most important steps when it comes to BDSM plays, especially when using a sex whip toy or flogger BDSM toy, is to take care of your partner after your tiring kinky session. Take showers or a warm bath to relax, it’s also essential to rehydrate so drink lots of water - and food - too!
Aftercare is not limited to caring for physical needs but also emotional and psychological. Always remember that being conscious of your partner’s emotional well-being and happiness is key to having a successful BDSM play.
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