Sex Gags: What, Why, When?
When you think about sex gags, the first thing that comes to mind is a whip-yielding, leather-wear-loving Dom holding a sex partner in submission. And you wouldn’t be far from the truth.
Although mouth gags have a few different applications, they are commonly related to sex play and BDSM.
If you still haven’t tested the BDSM waters, a gag sex toy may not be on your radar just yet. However, for those of you already into bondage and restraining plays, a sex gag will be a nice addition to your kink collection.
So, let’s see how this simple yet effective toy can help you introduce a new freakishly hot power dynamic into the boudoir.
What is a Ball Gag Sex Toy?
Probably the most popular among the mouth-restraining toys is the ball gag.
As the name suggests, mouth ball gags are usually rubber, plastic or silicone balls that sit behind the teeth, keeping the mouth open and reducing the ability to speak and breathe.
The ball is held in place by two leather straps that go around the head and can be adjusted to fit the one wearing the gag.
Ball gags come in different sizes and variants. Some feature a solid ball that (almost completely) shut-off airflow, and others have a “breathable” ball with holes that allows the one wearing it to breathe normally. The latter type is recommended for people with health problems.
Better safe than sorry, right?
What are Mouth Ball Gags Used for During Sex?
On a more serious note, ball gags are among the favorite sex toys to fetishists, BDSM practitioners, and people into kink and bondage play, but they are also far from being limited only to these groups of people.
So, even if you are a complete rookie in the sex toys department, you can still find pleasure in ball gags.
Gag sex can be extremely exciting and enjoyable, especially if you know what you are doing.
They are mostly used in dominant/submissive role play to prevent speech and normal breathing and (sometimes) afflict pain.
BDSM enthusiasts like to combine ball gags with other bondage tools such as ropes, nipple clamps, blindfolds, and restraint kits to further indulge in a dom/sub role-play.
How Does a Ball Gag Enhance BDSM Sex Play?
Being on this page, it’s highly unlikely that you haven’t at least done a light online search on the topic of BDSM. But, since you are here, let’s at least cover the basics.
BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism!
Having said that, it should have become obvious by now why the BDSM community swears by the powers of high-quality ball gag bondage toys!
Because they love giving and taking pain, obviously!
But there is also a strong psychological element. A submissive typically enjoys feeling helpless and out of control, surrendering their personal powers to a dominant.
A BDSM ball gag can help them achieve or add to such sensation by taking away the sub’s voice and obstructing their breathing, making the brain release a cocktail of pleasure hormones and throw them into a state of catharsis.
Most sex gags also limit the movement of facial muscles that are typically used for expressing feelings and emotions.
By taking away the breathing ability, verbal expression and facial gesticulation, gag sex toys impersonalize and dehumanize the wearer, thus helping them to empty their mind and experience a sense of freedom.
Others may simply enjoy the erotic pleasure triggered by a gag or use a sex gag as a face fucking and forceful oral sex tool. (Have in mind that you’ll probably have to use an open gag for oral penetration instead of one with a ball.)
How to Find the Right Size Ball Gag?
Finding the right ball gag sex toy size for most people is a process of trial and error.
The usual gag ball sizes measure:
- Extra small– 1.0” to 1.25”
- Small– about 5”
- Medium – 1.67” to 1.75”
- Large– about 0”
Extra Large– 2.5” to 3.0”
Logically, the bigger the ball, the more muffled the sounds, the weaker the airflow, the bigger the experience! Which one you choose is totally up to your personal preference!
But, since nailing the circumference of the oral cavity is kinda hard, a good rule of thumb would be to choose a sex gag that fits the wearer’s mouth at a comfortable jaw stretch.
You could also use the circumference of a dildo you already own and figure out the size of the ball gag with its help. Bet you didn’t think of it. Clever right?
Different Types of Sex Gags
Good thing the sex toy industry doesn’t stop at the last great idea they had. That way, the ball gag sex toy is far from being the only mouth restrain you can find on the market. If a mouth ball gag is not a great fit for you, here are a few similar products popular with fetishists.
- Penis gag— comes in the form of a shaft with leather straps. If you want to keep the mouth-stuffed and quiet, this is the perfect face banger for you.
- Open-Mouth Gag— keeps the mouth open, usually for oral sex purposes. Spider gags and o-ring gags are different variants of open-mouth restraints. The ring is commonly made of metal, rubber, or silicone.
- Bit gag— inspired by horse bits, this is a restraint similar to a ball gag, but smaller. A bit gag sits between the teeth and is usually made of rubber, silicone, and even metal. If you and your partner are just dipping your roes in the worlds of kinky play and BDSM, bit gags are a trait starting point.
- Muzzle gag— think of it as a strap-on for the whole head that also features a gag, giving you total Hannibal Lecter vibes! (If you are in that sort of thing!) It’s also a personal favorite to pet play lovers because the muzzle can be styled to look like an animal head.
A Note on Safety and Consent
Before you indulge in any kind of sexual act, ask your partner for consent! It’s extremely important to be on the same page when it comes to intimacy and sexual activity, especially if it includes both pain and pleasure!
Not everyone experiences pleasure pain in the same way, so you will need the “holy trinity” of safe words, actions, and sounds to feel safe in the bedroom!
When safe words are not an option (like when one has a BDSM ball gag in their mouth), you can try safe actions such as tapping patterns or object drops, or safe sounds, like a specific type of moan or even squeezing a squeaky toy.
Now that you know (mostly) everything about mouth ball gags, feel free to check out our store’s extensive offer of sex gags and add another dimension to your intimate life!