Gay Sex Toys Guide | What to Buy and How to Use It
So you want to try some new toys. Good. Whether you are shopping for the first time or just looking to add something new to the mix, this guide covers everything you need. We are talking about the best gay sex toys for men, how they work, what to look for, and how to stay safe while having a great time.
What kinds of gay sex toys are out there?
There are way more options than most guys realize when they first start looking.
The main categories are anal toys, masturbators, prostate massagers, vibrators, dildos, and cock rings. Each one does something different, and the right pick depends on what you are into.
Here is a quick breakdown:
- Dildos — great for penetration, solo or partnered. Come in realistic and non-realistic styles, tons of sizes.
- Butt plugs — designed to stay in place and create a feeling of fullness. Good for warming up or wearing during other play.
- Prostate massagers — shaped specifically to hit the prostate. A completely different kind of stimulation that a lot of guys love.
- Anal beads — a string of beads you insert and remove slowly. The sensation on removal is the main event.
- Male masturbators — sleeves and strokers designed to wrap around you. Way better than using your hand.
- Cock rings — worn at the base to restrict blood flow and make erections firmer and last longer.
- Vibrators — can be used externally or internally. Vibrating anal toys and prostate massagers are especially popular.
The full collection of toys for men has all of these in one place if you want to browse.
What is a prostate massager and why do guys like it so much?
A prostate massager is a curved toy designed to press against the prostate gland, which sits a few inches inside the rectum toward the front of your body.
The prostate is packed with nerve endings. When it gets stimulated the right way, the sensation is intense and very different from anything else.
A lot of men describe prostate orgasms as deeper and more full-body than a regular orgasm. Some guys can have one without touching themselves at all.
If you want to try one, check out the prostate massager collection. They come in manual and vibrating styles, so there is something for every comfort level.
You can also read the full breakdown on how to use a prostate massager if you want step-by-step help before you buy.
What should a beginner start with?
If you are brand new to toys, starting small and simple is the move.
A small butt plug made from silicone is one of the most popular first picks. It is easy to use, comfortable, and does not require much prep.
A basic masturbator sleeve is another solid starting point if you want something focused on solo play without any anal involvement.
Starting with something small and body-safe is always the right call. You can always size up later.
Here is what to look for as a beginner:
- Size — go smaller than you think you need. You can always upgrade.
- Material — silicone, glass, and stainless steel are all body-safe. Avoid rubber and jelly toys.
- Shape — for anal toys, a flared base is non-negotiable. Without it, a toy can get lost inside.
- Vibration — optional but great for beginners. The stimulation helps your body relax.
The anal toy collection has a great range of beginner options if you want to see what is available.
What lube should you use with gay sex toys?
Water-based lube is the safest choice for most toys, especially silicone ones.
Silicone-based lube feels amazing and lasts longer, but it can break down silicone toys over time. Stick to water-based if your toy is silicone.
For anal play, you want a lube that is a little thicker than what you would use for other activities. Thicker lube stays in place better and provides more cushioning.
The anal lube collection has options made specifically for this kind of play.
Not sure which type is right for your situation? The guide to choosing anal lube covers everything clearly.
How do you use a dildo safely?
Using a dildo safely comes down to a few basics: the right lube, the right pace, and a toy made from a body-safe material.
- Choose body-safe material: Silicone, glass, and stainless steel are all non-porous and easy to clean. Avoid rubber or jelly toys.
- Apply lube generously: Coat the toy and yourself before you start. Reapply as needed.
- Start slow: Let your body adjust before going deeper or faster.
- Use a flared base for anal play: Any dildo used anally must have a wide base so it cannot slip inside.
- Clean after every use: Wash with warm water and toy-safe cleaner. Let it dry fully before storing.
You can browse the full dildo selection to see what sizes and styles are available.
Pro tip: Suction cup dildos are great for solo play because they stick to flat surfaces and free up both hands. A solid hands-free option for any skill level.
What are male masturbators and are they worth it?
Yes, they are worth it. Male masturbators are sleeves designed to wrap around your penis and simulate different sensations.
The inside texture is what makes the difference. Some are ribbed, some have bumps, some spin or vibrate. A quality masturbator feels a lot different from using your hand.
There are a few main types:
- Basic sleeves — soft, textured inside, manual use
- Vibrating masturbators — same as above but with added buzz
- Realistic masturbators — made to feel like real skin, very lifelike texture
- Blowjob simulators — designed to mimic oral sensations specifically
If you are curious about the differences, the guide to types of male masturbators covers each category in detail.
The male masturbation toy collection is a good place to see all the options at once.
Do cock rings actually do anything?
Cock rings work by restricting blood flow out of the penis, which makes erections harder and helps them last longer.
A lot of guys notice that sensations feel more intense when wearing one. Vibrating cock rings add an extra layer of stimulation for both partners during sex.
The key is fit. Too tight and it is uncomfortable. Too loose and it does not do much. You want snug but not cutting off circulation.
The cock ring collection has both simple and vibrating styles at different price points.
How do you clean and store your toys properly?
Cleaning your toys is not optional. A dirty toy can cause infections, full stop.
Here is the basic cleaning routine:
- Rinse immediately after use: Warm water and mild soap or a dedicated toy cleaner.
- Check if it is waterproof: If the toy has electronics, do not submerge it unless it is rated waterproof.
- Let it dry fully: Air dry on a clean towel before storing. Moisture trapped in storage leads to mold or bacteria.
- Store separately: Keep toys in a cloth bag or original box. Some materials react badly when stored touching each other.
Using a proper sex toy cleaner makes this process quick and easy.
Pro tip: Silicone, glass, and stainless steel toys can be boiled or run through the dishwasher on a hot cycle without soap for a deep clean. Electronic toys cannot.
Is ordering from ToyHubUSA actually discreet?
Yes, completely. Every order ships in a plain, unmarked box.
There is no brand name on the outside. Your credit card statement will not say anything recognizable either. The whole experience is built around privacy, from browsing to delivery.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the best first gay sex toy for beginners?
A small silicone butt plug or a basic masturbator sleeve is usually the best starting point. Both are easy to use, affordable, and forgiving for first-timers. Pick something small and body-safe, get comfortable with it, then go from there.
Can straight men use gay sex toys?
Yes. The body parts involved do not have a sexual orientation. Prostate massagers, anal toys, and male masturbators are made for male anatomy, not any specific identity. Plenty of guys who do not identify as gay use all of these toys regularly.
What lube is best for anal play with toys?
A thick water-based lube is the safest and most versatile choice. It works with all toy materials and is easy to clean up. Silicone-based lube lasts longer but should not be used with silicone toys since it can damage the material over time.
How do I know if a sex toy is body-safe?
Look for toys made from silicone, glass, stainless steel, or hard ABS plastic. These materials are non-porous, meaning bacteria cannot get inside them. Avoid toys made from rubber, latex, or jelly material since those can harbor bacteria even after cleaning.
How long does it take to get comfortable with anal toys?
It varies by person. Some guys feel comfortable after a few sessions. Others take a few weeks of gradual practice. The key is going slow, using plenty of lube, and never forcing anything. If it hurts, stop and try again another time with a smaller toy.
Do I need a special cleaner for sex toys?
A dedicated toy cleaner is the easiest option and works on all materials. Mild unscented soap and warm water also works fine for most toys. The important thing is cleaning right after use, every time, and letting the toy dry completely before you store it.
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